Wednesday, December 06, 2006

And the Marvin problem is back

it actually never left but has been getting worse.

Remember Marvin is the kid that picks on Kasper.

Up until last week it was just the usual, pushing, hitting, spitting. Not that any of this is OK, it makes me sick just thinking about it, but the school said the situation was under control. I made the mistake of believing that.

Friday the boys were in the shower after gym class. The person that usually keeps an eye on them had called in sick, so they were alone.

Marvin started hitting Gunnar, Kasper's best friend. Kasper tried sticking up for him. Marvin got his belt a hit Kasper repeatedly leaving marks from his buckle on Kasper's side.

The first thing anyone should be asking is: Where does a 6 year old get the idea to hit with a belt?

Magga, Kasper's teacher, went looking for them after they had taken 45 minutes in the shower. She found all the boys still naked and Kasper crying in the shower.

All I saw was Kasper walking done the hallway crying his eyes out. He told me what happened and I took him straight to the office.

They told me that they would meet with Marvin parents again and keep an eye on him, which they had already been doing.

The meeting with his parents is tomorrow but they have already said that he was never violent before and they do not know where he gets it.

Obviously it was a long weekend for Marvin. Monday he came to school and immediately began to hit kids with his water bottle. When it was taken away he became hysterical, swearing and threatening everyone that his dad was going to get them.

Today I was waiting for class to end with Agata, the girl from the after school program and class was dismissed. Marvin comes out singing a 'fuck you' song and waving his fingers in the air. Probably the only English he knows.

Kristina has called the school several times now as well to make sure they are fixing this problem. As an Icelander she is listened to much more then me.

So far the plan seems to be some therapy for Marvin and a staff member to follow him everywhere he goes until this is fixed. Even if it takes until he is 15.

I really hope this gets better. If it does not we will have no choice but to switch Kasper schools. I know there is better schools but he likes the one he is at. If he had to leave he would blame himself. He has a best friend there. Gunnar would have to switch schools to because without Kasper there he would get picked on twice as much.

I really hope they find out what the problem is and fix it.

At the beginning of the school year we were told there was a zero tolerance policy on bullying. Now is the time to see that policy in action.

1 comment:

  1. Anonymous7:56 PM

    This is all so horrendous! It is awful for Kasper to put up with, awful for you waiting each day to see if Marvin has picked on Kasper again that day, and I definitely think something is going on in Marvin's home! That is just not normal behavior. Something has to be prompting it.

    I am really hoping that Marvin gets help and the school sticks to their word!

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